Parenting on Purpose: Unity

Children can learn so much about God from their parents as they properly model Him in the home. From a very early age children begin to learn about unity, and by extension the Trinity, from their parents.

But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” (1 Corinthians 11:3, ESV)

Consider that Jesus, in deity and attributes, is equal with God the Father (John 10.30). Yet within the Trinity, Jesus submits to the authority and leadership of God the Father (John 5.19, 30). There is equality with a difference of roles.

Now consider that men and women are equal in being and value. Both reflect the image of God.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27, ESV)

As in any relationship among equals, someone must be appointed responsibility for the actions of the group or chaos will ensue. For instance, in the workplace a vice president will be appoint a manager to be responsible for a group of employees. In your home, God has appointed the husband to have responsibility for the actions of the home. There is equality between the man and woman, but with different roles as appointed by God.

Unity in philosophy, purpose, and practice is the key for a husband and wife to properly reflect God’s unity to their children.

Right philosophy is found in God’s word. A biblical worldview is important for parents to understand in order to communicate it to their children. The reasons for why things are, and the way they should be, is found in God’s word.

Our purpose in parenting is to teach our children right from wrong, and how God provided Christ as the substitute sacrifice for our wrongs.

Finally, parents must be unified in practice. Practice is the details of agreeing on what is right and wrong, what the rules are, and how they are enforced. Parents must be in agreement on how you will educate, and discipline your children.

Parents rightly reflect God when they are unified in parenting philosophy, purpose, and practice.

Further reading: Eph. 5.22-33; Phil. 2.1-11


David Harris is the Senior Pastor at Faith Baptist Church. A former programmer, in his free time he enjoys spending time with his wife Kim and trying his hand at the illusive craft of smoking meat.